Sada Jackson (SJ): I just thought it would be really cool to sit with one of her friends. Like, how often do you get to do that, to sit with your parents’ friends and just ask questions? And they don’t get to jump in and say, ’Don’t tell her that!’
Angela Morehead-Mugita (AM): Right, ’Don’t tell her what I said!’
SJ: I want to know more about my mom as a woman, because I only knew her as “Mom.”
AM: The part that most children don’t see from their parents is the vulnerability. Um, I think for the both of us we became vaults for each other. We call them vaults — she’s like, ’Okay, I need a vault moment.’ As a matter of fact she helped me when I had my son. I remember calling her the day I came home with Christopher.
SJ: Mmhmm.
AM: I sat on my couch and I had all of these beautiful things from my baby shower. And I’m just bawling; I said, ’Ilena, what am I supposed to do now?’ And she was so clear. She’s like, ’You’re gonna hold your baby. All that stuff in the living room is gonna stay right there until you get yourself together.’ So that was the one thing about Ileana: she would never let me lose it.
SJ: I got emotional when you were telling the story, because losing my mom to breast cancer when I was entering my eighth month of pregnancy and not having that chance to call her when I got home, it still bothers me. But at the same time, I heard her say, ’Don’t you be no sad mama for my grandbaby.’ [Laughter.)]
AM: Oh yeah. She’s like, ’I need my daughter to be strong.’
SJ: Yeah. And I’m feeling that. I’m feeling, like, her encouraging me saying, ’Now you’re the mother. You’re a woman.’
AM: Oh yeah.
SJ: And when my baby looks up to me and I’m singing certain lullabies that she sang to me, I’ll do like a little run and be like, ’That was a mom run.’
AM: That’s your mother! [Laughter.] Yep. I’m watching every seed that your mother sowed in life, manifest in you — in your son, in your marriage. And I remember when my mother passed away and she came to the funeral, and she hugged me, and she whispered in my ear and she said, ’You got this. You will not break down. You will walk in there and be the legacy that your mother left you.’
SJ: Yeah.
AM: And so I say that to you. You will not lose it. You will not break down. And you will walk in the legacy that your mother left for you.
