“I don't think we ever had a date.”

Harriet and Louis Caplan met in the early 1990s.

Harriet was 48 and working at a bank, and Louis was a 56-year-old physicist.

They both assumed they’d be single for the rest of their lives.

But at StoryCorps, they talked about what happened when their paths crossed.

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Louis Caplan (LC): A group of us met after work on Wednesday evenings, and it was an eclectic mix of people.

Harriet Caplan (HC): We went to football games and concerts, and I still don't quite know how it happened. But instead of going in two separate cars, you and I would start going in the same car. I don't think we ever had a date.

LC: That is true.

HC: How did you decide you were wanting to love me?

LC: That is not something that is decided--it's something that happens. I had been unmarried all my life.

HC: Why didn't you ever marry?

LC: Never found you.

HC: [Laughs] I had never married either, and neither of us were exactly children. But suddenly it was like it seemed right.

LC: And I asked her to marry and...

HC: I said yes.

LC: She said yes.

HC: We're confronting now some issues in our lives that are gonna make the next two years different for us. I found out I had colon cancer. And in all likelihood, I have a life expectancy of about two years now.

But I want to tell you in this period that of any thing that I have been blessed with, you are the biggest blessing of my life. And that I intend to spend this period of time--as long as I can--living.

LC: Well you hold the same position in my life, and I expect to live it with you and help you live it.

HC: Thank you. You know how much I love you.

LC: And you know how much I love you.