Diane Tells His Name is Lakota—Her family is of the Oglala Sioux Tribe of South Dakota.
But Diane didn’t know any of this until she was an adult, when she discovered she’d been adopted.
She spoke with her daughter, Bonnie Buchanan, at StoryCorps.
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Diane Tells His Name (DT): Probably elementary school. I had a younger sister, and I really didn't like doing the same things that she would do. She would do tea parties and play with dolls and things like that. And I was always outside looking at the clouds or the stars.
And my sister was blond, tall and thin like my mother, and I was round and brown [Laughs].
I remember going through the family albums looking for my face in the old photographs, and I didn't see me.
And eventually when I was 37 years old, I happened to see a picture of my mom in October of 1951, and it shocked me because I was born in November of 1951, and my mother was not pregnant. So that's when I knew that I was adopted.
BB: How did you feel?
DT: It was very satisfying to know that I wasn't crazy. I didn't blame them, I wasn't angry with them. In 1951, you just didn't talk about those things.
So, when I got my original birth certificate it said on there my birth mother's name, and it said that she was born at the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation. So I went to South Dakota to receive my Indian name and get a crash course in how to be an Indian. After that, my husband and I told Indian Family Services we wanted to adopt a child from my tribe--a Lakota child.
And finally they faxed us a picture of a little Indian child, and she was drinking chocolate syrup out of a Hershey's bottle. And our son said, "That's her! That's the one we need to adopt." And it was you.
DT: I started doing research on your family. And when I started looking at your family tree, I saw one of my relatives on your paper. So, we are cousins. I thought that was just--that was amazing.
I'm glad you're my baby.
BB: I know. I'm glad you adopted me.
DT: I am too. It's like our whole family was just planned out so that it would be best for all of us.