“The day that we put him on the plane was one of the saddest days of my life.”

Eileen Tarr and her sister Ellen Hess remember their father leaving for the Vietnam War.

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Recorded in Richmond, VA

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ET: The day that we put him on the plane in the pittsburgh airport was one of the saddest days of my life.
You were so depressed about it you couldn't even go back to school for the afternoon. I went to school, and the day went by and all i could think about was dad stepping on that plane to go to Vietnam, and i cannot remember many days that went by that i didn't think about him and worry about him.

EH: When Bob Hope was on, mom parked us in front of the TV set, hoping we would see him, and that we could be able to say dad looked okay. you know i remember her loneliness about being separated from dad, and i remember when she made that chain out of 365 safety pins, and every day he was gone she would take a safety pin off. When she first put it up, it was on a lamp,

ET: it was a standing lamp

EH: It actually wrapped around it, and there was a pool on the floor

ET: i can remember watching the chain with her and feeling excited as it was really getting smaller.

EH: And there were like benchmarks, or milestones, like when it no longer pooled or it no longer wrapped. you know, and she wrote him a letter every day. when she was done writing the letter, she would take the pin off of the chain unless it was, like, your birthday, then you would get to take the pin off, or if something special had happened at school, she would let you take the pin off the chain, and she kept all those pins, just like she kept all his letters from vietnam. until he returned.