“Do you have any advice for me on being a father?”

David Heins to his father, John.

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Recorded in Charlottesville, VA

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DH: When I was a kid I used to tell all of the other kids that I knew that you were the smartest man in the world.

JH:

DH: And I still think that you’re the most intelligent person that I know. Do you have any advice for me on being a father?

JH: I think what I see so far…you really-- man you’re a whiz at changing diapers. That’s much better than I was, and …I’d say, um, just try to be yourself, and be fair and be honest.

What’s been the most exciting thing for you about having a child?

DH: The first thing that happened is that I all of a sudden understood how much you love me. I never got it before. I mean I knew you guys loved me –

JH: You’re gonna make me cry!

DH: Just to finally realize how much sacrifice, and how you guys would do anything. And to all of a sudden know the depth of love that you have for me and that I have for this guy and just to watch him laugh. I mean, it’s incredible… I can see you in his face, you know.. and I can see all of our ancestors, you know -- when I watch him laugh. It’s just better than any other experience.

JH: I know, I know what you mean. That’s how I felt too when you came along. You and Natalie have been the great joys of my life… And now these grandchildren.

DH: Well, thank you very much Daddy, I love you so much. And I want you to know that you’re a successful father and you’re really a great role model for me. I’m really glad you came all the way down here to do this with me.

JH: Well, I love you too. And as long as you have a little fellow named Conrad that’s bait enough right there to get me to come any time.