“We had a lot of seventh grade-style dates.”

Andrea St. John (R) remembers her fiance.

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Recorded in Saranac Lake, NY


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Andrea St. John (AS): I think it took a little while for him to build up to ask me to do something
alone. We had a lot of, you know 'seventh grade' style dates, you know, where a
lot of mutual friends kind of met in one place. Chaperones.

Thomas Broderick (TB): So you knew he had Ewing's. Was that scary?

AS: No, and not until he went back for the check up scans, did I really think
about cancer in his life or our lives. We were back at school when we got the call
from his doctors. Being new to this, I walked into the faculty room and his eyes
were red, and, ah, I hit 'go' on the copier and I'm not paying attention, and then
i turned around and said "are your eyes okay?" and then as soon as I got the words
out of my mouth, I realized, "oh no...", he said, "yeah I think you should get
your jacket, maybe we'll go for a walk. And he told me what his doctors had told
him. That "the cancer was back, there's a spot in my thigh, and in my ribs and in
my pelvis," then he paused and said, "the scans lit up like a christmas tree". One
morning I got up and got his his tea ready and his breakfast ready and stuff and
said "hey, I need your opinion on something. I want to wear this dress to your
wake", and I put it on and was standing up on the bed. And I said, "how do I
look?" And he started to cry, so I said, "I'm so sorry, I'll take it off, I didn't
mean to upset you at all." And he said, "no it's just that you look so beautiful,
I'm so glad I got to see you in that dress", and he kept crying and I held his
hand and sat down on the bed next to him and said, "what's going on?", he said, "I
woke up this morning more ready". And I asked him what that felt like, and he
paused and he looked at me, he said. "well, I guess it's the same thing you felt
when you put the dress on this morning".